The Huffington Post has a moving and important story on what it means to be gay.
The legal ratification of gay marriage creates a new golden age for homosexual unions—or does it?
The issue of gay mental health is complex. As the article points out, the drivers of depression and suicide can have deep roots in learned behaviors and sometimes in stressor hormones.
My reaction to the story is of course shock at the bleak portrait painted about the life of unmarried gay men in their 30’s and 40’s; at the same time, something seems to be missing from the story.
An idea that implicitly underlies that article is that individualism is the defining feature of our human nature; that to me seems incomplete, at least to the reality experienced by many people.
What’s missing, it seems to me, is any discussion of the “transpersonal” – that which goes beyond the individual and connects us to others innately. Techniques of meditation, prayer, holotropic breathwork, and other avenues for getting outside ourselves and our oppressive mental obsessions, can all at times be helpful.
Such approaches are not a panacea, and perhaps are merely a band-aid given the severity of social stigmatizing that affects LGBTs in society. Yet our obsession with individualism—the ideology that we stand or fall alone, seems to be part of the issue.